Writing this blog, I wasn’t sure where to start. As a first point of contact at Talk In The Bay I have received phone calls from parents who are seeking help after the loss of their baby. Confident with the ability of our bereavement counsellors I help them to book a session. After reading a selection of SANDS 40 stories by 40 parents, family members and friends affected by the death of a baby, it’s clear what courage is involved in even just making that call. You can read the stories here.
One mother talks about a friend giving her a leaflet from SANDS saying “…it might help, when you’re ready…”.
“What could they possibly say that could help? My heart had been torn to pieces, my world shattered and broken beyond repair.”
Calling the SANDS support line she found that she was given the emotional space to talk about her daughter and express her grief and anger without fear of judgement. She felt understood. Read more here.
Other stories conveyed the differences in the expression of grief. Couples found themselves dealing with the same heartbreaking loss in very different ways.
“My husband wasn’t able to talk about it. Three years on and he still cannot say Jason’s name.” Read more here.
A father explains:
“It’s something you never think will happen to you. But it did. We have kept this story rather private, but we wanted to remember Benjamin like the angel he is.”
This couple decided to take part in a fundraiser to help other people who are or were in the same situation as them. Read more here.
At Talk In The Bay, we recognise that there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Our therapists can support you individually, as a couple or a family and are able to mould the support to each of your needs, whether they are polar opposites or the same. It is important to acknowledge your loss and accept your feelings without allowing it to overwhelm you.